This book reminded me of my friends who turn to me for comfort when their relationships with their boyfriends or girlfriends seem to be on the rocks or even worse than that. I act like a love counselor listening to their sentiment attentively. I have to reply to their messages or answer their calls when they cannot endure the process of moving on. As long as possible I have to be careful about the words or expressions I utter, so they cannot be upset about me. I make sure that I empathize with them , that they are only human. I only give some advice should the need arise. Perhaps my friends groom me to be a head shrinker.
Since I learned from psychology that we resort to various coping mechanisms when we are in distressed circumstances, I believe that those friends of mine above and others alike should read this book. Reading this is another means of catharsis they can as well do to release the pent-up emotions which they are enmeshed in and cause them to be irrational and estranged from society. The book will awaken them to the reality that separating from someone you have been dearly and amorously attached to is a normal process of growing up. Also, the book intends to dissect the normal reactions to breakup from initial reactions to full acceptance.
The author truly knows the dilemma a woman goes through after breakup . To describe it, she drew a metaphorical analogy between flowers ( the woman) and the sun (the man) . So, the book is divided into five chapters: a journey of wilting, falling, rooting, rising, and blooming. The first and second chapters deal with the darkness she passes through when she can’t accept the situation, when she doesn’t know how to pull herself together, when she experiences slow detachment from the person she has loved a lot, or when she is not rational enough to handle the situation in that she is angry with herself or the people around her . The last chapters are on surviving the stages of grief and gradual realizations of her situation. The final stages when she has come to accept and forgive as part of the healing process. All the chapters resemble the stages of grief, DABDA ( Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance).
The author had the audacity to depict a few sensitive parts a woman usually experiences in her loneliness like sexual desires. So, readers might be shattered about them. As a reader, open your mind. You are no longer a caveman back in the dark ages.
You can also be riveted on the images in awe the author illustrated herself. They are simple, but helpful in invoking the deep feelings her poems want to trickle out. I also liked the book cover; it is classical.
I may not yield a clue about feminine psyche, as to why women are maudlin, but the author is able to illustrate it well. Thus, the book is worth reading, not for women but also for men to understand that those situations described in the book are what women try to cover from us, behind their cheerful facades . On the other hand, I believe that men and women have the same patterns of sinking feelings except their outlets.
This is my first e-book this year, and I loved it. It is not as superficial as the other one I am averse to . Needless to mention the title of the book . I wish I had my own copy and use it in slapping my friends across the face for their insensibility.
Rating: 5/5 stars ( It’s amazing.)